Overcoming Masturbation and Impure Thoughts
This book will not help you. Not unless you're serious. How serious do you have to be? Jesus says, "If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off, and throw it from you; for it is better for you that one of the parts of your body perish, than for your whole body to go into hell" (Matt. 5:30 NASB).
This book will help you — if you're serious, but can't figure out why you haven't gotten victory.
There's more to overcoming sexual sin than willpower. You will need the Holy Spirit. You will need the tools He has provided in His toolchest, the Bible. You will need prayer, fasting, and other disciplines. You will need to identify and know how to fight on three fronts at once: the world, the flesh, and the devil. The Bible gives us everything that we need for life and godliness (2 Pet. 1:3), but like most wars, it will take training (Luke 6:40; Heb. 12:11) in how to use God's tools and methods. Too many people give up because all they have tried are weak weapons rather than the weapons that are "mighty in God for pulling down strongholds" (2 Cor. 10:4). For those committed to laying down their lives for Christ, this book gives you guidance that has already helped hundreds, young and old, to gain complete victory in this area of purity of thought and body.
Jesus says, "Without Me you can do nothing" (John 15:5). You can't even catch a fish without God's help. Just ask Simon Peter. He said, "Master, we have toiled all night and caught nothing; nevertheless at Your word I will let down the net" (Luke 5:5). It is only by faith that you can see Jesus do the impossible. May this book usher you into impossible victory after victory.
23 Costs of Sexual Sin
An anonymous pastor friend of Dr. Kayser made this list to help put fear into men to not do stupid things — and when you look at the costs, you realize how stupid they are. There is no good ROI.
Developing Sales Resistance to Porn
This lists common tactics of high-pressure sales and how Satan used them in his original pitch to Eve — but these same sales principles also demonstrate how to develop sales resistance, particularly when it comes to resisting the promises offered by porn. If you really apply each of these principles, they will help you to develop a revulsion for porn.
Yielding Rights Homework
Acting out is often a result of feeling like we have been wronged and our rights have been trampled upon. This one page homework assignment helps identify the rights that we feel have been violated.
Roots of Lying in 8 Areas of Life
Overcoming any sin involves walking in the light. Sexual sins especially tend to be hidden. We must put off all lying. If we have been in the habit of hiding our sin, it may take a more concentrated effort to be able to walk in truth about sexual sin. This graphic can help you examine any area of life where deceit may have crept in. A useful graphic to go alongside Dr. Kayser's message Hope for Holiness.
Taming Curiosity Exercises
How to tame curiosity. This is absolutely essential for gaining victory. Give your eyes exercises every day in order to train your eyes and your mental curiosity to serve God rather than allowing curiosity to be your master.
Hope After Porn Testimonies
Covenant Eyes collected the following stories by women whose husbands were caught in a pornography addiction. The stories are meant to give hope, as, in these cases, there was repentance and a turn to walk in the light.
Sin Facilitators and Impediments Worksheet
As you work at overcoming a sin, you can use this list to help identify facilitators to that sin that need to be put off, and impediments to that sin that need to be put on — facilitators to righteous thinking and behavior that need to be put on, and impediments to righteous thinking and behavior that need to be put off.
Dr. Kayser's Favorite Counseling Verses
When you're counseling someone who's deep in a besetting sin, they need to set their faith on Christ's promises and be cut to the heart by the Sword of the Word. Here are Dr. Kayser's top counseling passages.
King David and Missing Sexual Hedges
It is a truism that males struggle with sexual temptations. This sermon seeks to give practical help for gaining the victory. God gives us the details about King David's fall so we can learn to walk in righteousness for His Name's sake.
In this sermon, you'll see the human hedges that David broke down, the providential hedges that David ignored, and the dangerous downhill "mystery of iniquity" that David was ignoring.
Bathsheba and Missing Sexual Hedges
Whereas the previous sermon addressed key issues facing men, this sermon addresses the unique sexual temptations of women. In the process it also boldly addresses issues of modesty, thought life, hedges, and the practical steps that should be taken to tuneup a marriage.
When we expose our sin through Biblical confession, God brings incredible relief, joy, liberty, and peace. But when we cover our sin with the "fig leaves" of humanistic substitutes, we bring ourselves misery. When God guarantees that the consequences of hiding our sins are always greater than the consequences of confessing our sins, why is it that so frequently we desperately use every means at our disposal to hide? This sermon explores this strange phenomenon and applies it in various areas of life, including apologetics, child rearing, finances, discipline, and politics.
Pagan Thinking in a Christian Family
The tragedy of Amnon and Tamar in King David's family shows that, even in a God-fearing family, worldly thinking is insufficient to kill sin. Only fear of the Lord and Biblical thinking can crucify ungodly passions, not social constructs.
In this sermon, Dr. Kayser gives fifteen reasons why lust must be crucified rather than ignored and shows how Christians must:
- Speak up (Prov. 24:11-12)
- Not blame the victim (Ex. 23:7)
- Look to Jesus for hope and healing (1 John 1:9; Heb. 4:15-16)
- Transform our minds (Rom. 12:1-2)
A Note from Dr. Kayser
For those deeply involved in pornography — not anyone else — I also recommend any of the books by Steve Gallagher. The whole ministry of Pure Life Ministries is tremendous. Their organization has helped numerous people get past very deep and dark addictions to pornography. Hopefully these resources will be helpful to you as overcome and help other Christians overcome.